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today I'm feelin->

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Jun 30, 2006
Dear all,
It's a shame there is no one to blame for all the pain that life
brings, if you will just take me it might just complete me and together
we can make a stand.... Some current news has been playing
on my mind for the last couple of days, its a tragedy that could have
been foreseen but was definitely not expected. The two news articles
are ones close to home involving young girls. The tragedy
in Collie - this news story reads - a young girl who was living away
from home was tragically murdered by her two best friends in the house
which she was residing. The age of the girls was 15-16. The girls had
been parting together the evening before this incident and whilst one
was sleeping the other two had decided to kill her. Gagging her with a
cloth drenched in various chemicals the proceeded to strangle her with
an electrical cable. When the girl had not gone to school and was
thought to be missing the parents had searched and the two murderers
themselves got involved in the search mission. The question I ask now
is what was going on in these girls minds? What possesses them to do
such things? And how safe are our children? Now this girl who was
murdered was a bright girl, she had ambition and had left home and
decided that school was the right way to go. For some reason something
has gone seriously wrong. I blame society. We talk about a more
tolerant and liberal country, that we should allow youth more freedom
especially in regards to expression and that parents need to take a
step back so that children can grow up and learn for themselves. We
talk about children rights and the ability of children to make
decisions for themselves. Yet for all the good this has done, I think
to some extent it has also led to a demise of society. I have argued
previously that there has been a demise of youth and I again argue this
point. There needs to be a point where parents become more protective
and are more disciplined with their children. There needs to be values
instilled into our children and we need to be firm. Parents must
understand their role as a provider not only of the basics to survive
but to teach your child right from wrong and to instil values and
morals. This brings me to the second news article, perhaps the more disturbing one. Two days ago headlines around Australia
told of a little 8 year old girl and the horrible tragedy that befell
her. Little Sophia was fetched home from school along with her 11 year
old sister and 14 year old brother, by her uncle. On the way home they
made a stop at a near by shopping centre whilst there Sophia asked to
go to the bathroom. It was nothing out of the ordinary. When she hadn't
returned ten minuets later, her brother and father looked around
frantically worried that something was wrong. Her brother entered the
disabled toilets to confront a man who was running away by this stage,
the uncle gave chase, and the brother found his sister dead on the
floor. Young Sophia had been raped – indecently assaulted and sexually
penetrated and then was strangled to death. The man accused was a 21
year old trolley boy who worked at these shops. Perhaps
the most frightening thing is that there was nothing anyone could do,
for young Sophia it was a case of being in the wrong place at the wrong
time that led to her death. 8 is an age where adults do not think that
they have to accompany their children to the bathroom that they are old
enough to go, but in the same instance they are so young and
vulnerable. Parents are worried that they wrap their child in cotton
wool, but the truth is that children need our protection. They need to
be guided, the question then of course is when and how do we know to
let go? And that is even less able to be determined, how does one
decide to let their child move on, grow, explore, how do you let your
child wander away from the comforts of home, how do you teach your
child and let your child grow up. The world is not a safe place and
much of the country is now pondering the question, have I done the
right things by my children, are they safe, this could have happened to
my child, am I able to let them grow up? I don't have the answer nor do
I pretend to. I guess from my perspective, this was a once off and
indeed very tragic yet we cannot allow this to stop us. We cannot allow
this to make us so cautious that it does not allow us to grow up. We
need to make sure that our children are well equipped with the
knowledge to achieve, to be safe, and to be successful in life. We need
to make sure that they know to lookout for themselves, teach them self
defence, make sure when they are going somewhere, especially young
girls that they do so in pairs, make sure that they know when things
aren't right and teach them how to get out of that situation. So
from all this whilst highlighting two terrible tragedies I always want
to pay homage to parents and the important roles that they have on
their children's lives. Parents need to make sure they are taking an
active role in the lives of their children, to make sure they are
brought up with the right morals and ideas from a young age. Society is
treading a path of young people and children with little respect for
anyone or anything and it's frightening. It's not only others but
themselves and their own bodied and parents are the ones who should
from a young age instil certain values into their children and then
more importantly set the proper example. RIP girls, may justice be served and may your souls rest in peace, In the arms of the angles fly away from here, we know you are shining down on us from heaven. Sorry this is so long and very random... needed to get it out of my system and I'm not sure how coherent it is. That's it from me, Yours Puffaloonie Nothing's what it seems, I mean It's not all dirty, but it's not all clean There's children paying bills There's monks buying thrills There's pride for sale in magazines There's pills for rent to make you clean Marvin Gaye, there's no brother, brother Woody Guthrie's land can't feed Mother Mothers weep, children sleep So much violence ends in silence It's a shame there's no one to blame For all the pain that life brings If you will just take me It might just complete me And together we can make a stand
Posted at 01:35 am by puffaloonie
 |  |  | Maverick... July 3, 2006 10:55 PM PDT
The things that you said about Discipline and instilling values is absolutely correct. Even if it seems like you are a very strict parent its fine... In the long run it works out for the best i feel. Being too liberal with kids these days has lead to degeneration of culture. |  |
  |  |  | puffaloonie July 2, 2006 11:40 AM PDT
I agree this world is sick Spacey!! But we have to remember that this is not a normal occurance at all.
Blaming society may be broad, prehaps western society narrows it? Its the attitudes of the people and the evolving ideologies,I don't blame them directly for any of the tragedies but I blame society for fostering a generation of people who lack certain morals... wow I reckon I'm gonna get my butt kicked cos of that statement. I can't quite express what I mean but there needs to be a change.
Michelle - I guess I'm frightened personally because it was so close to home and could happen to anyone at anytime, it wasn't premeditated so it was easily able to happen, it scares me to know that there are some really sick people around, prying on such young children, defenseless children. |  |
  |  |  | Michelle July 1, 2006 02:32 AM PDT
It is difficult for parents to know where to draw the line between coodling their children and teaching them to be independantly. Sometimes, in trying to avoid flying on either extreme, they end up doing neither.
Livingstone shopping centre is only 15 minutes away from me, and my best friend lives in Canning Vale. It's funny how though we hear stories of things like these happening interstate, overseas, somewher in the world, the complete reality of how sickening and how terrifying it is doesn't hit home until it happens to our closer community.
On a tangent, what makes an event like this frightening? Is it fear for ourselves and our loved ones? Feeling for the victims? Or the complete, total perversion of innocence it involves? And then why. |  |
  |  |  | steph June 30, 2006 11:56 PM PDT
<i> I blame society</i>
That's a very wide field. |  |
  |  |  | steph June 30, 2006 11:56 PM PDT
<i> I blame society</i>
That's a very wide field. |  |
  |  |  | Spacenoodle June 30, 2006 03:05 AM PDT
the world can be a sick sick horrible place!!!! |  |
  |  |  | Spacenoodle June 30, 2006 02:59 AM PDT
that is terible news! the world is a sick sick place!!! |  |
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